If you are having relationship and interpersonal issues at home, at work or with friends this may affect your mood, quality of life and health. Positive, meaningful relationships make life worth living. The people with whom we interact may act like mirrors reflecting the vibes we put out, or treat us in a way that make us react negatively despite our good intentions. Depending on the type of relationship, this can reflect what they mean to us or what we mean to them. Our daily interactions help us to continuously recreate our sense of identity, either by strengthening our self-esteem or making us feel uncomfortable with who we are. For example, when we are with a group of people with whom we feel accepted and liked we get a sense of belonging that feels good.
There is a biological need for social connection. The “feel-good” hormone called oxytocin is produced in our bodies when we interact in positive, supportive, nurturing relationships. This includes getting together with good friends, being around accepting co-workers, and in romantic relationships. Higher levels of oxytocin go hand-in-hand with better communication and lower stress. Connecting well with people may require emotional intelligence, social skills and cultural sensitivity. Sometimes, emotions such as anger or resentment, difficulties with attachment, or past experiences get in the way of forming or maintaining meaningful bonds. If your mood, attachment style, or past experiences are interfering with how you connect with people and you are unhappy with how you come across or how you are being treated, you may benefit from exploring counseling and psychotherapy options.
When relationships are positive, they bring joy and a sense of meaning to life. On the other hand, hostile or unsupportive relationships create stress, angst and may threaten your self-esteem.
If you are suffering due to relationship or interpersonal issues with your family, friends and/or at work, psychotherapy can help you understand some of the causes of your relationship problems and help you think of ways to deal with them in a way that will be beneficial to you and increase your sense of well-being.
If you are interested in therapy in Thornhill, Vaughan, Markham, Richmond Hill or North York, or would like to ask any questions or schedule an appointment, please call us today at 905.597.4404